As we travel through the whirlwind experience of dating and finding love. There are so many questions that come up around this topic and not so many straight -forward answers. Do soul mates exist? Is there only 1 person for me? Where are they? Why get married? And the list goes on and on. However, there was 1 question that I came across that I had honestly never thought about or even questioned and this intrigue and curiosity led me down a path to really try and understand the root of it all. This article by Rabbi Simon Jacobson really captures the physical and spiritual aspects of Falling in Love and finally gave me a deeper understanding to the number one question:
Excerpt from the article…
Is the mystique and the romance, the music and the moonlight, just nature’s way of hoodwinking males and females to reproduce?What lies behind the attraction between the sexes? Sexuality is a subject about which no one is neutral. Everyone has a sexual nature, everyone has a need for sexuality, everyone has a sexual personality that has been formed by home, schooling, the trial and error of life experience, and whatever they pick up along the way from the subtle and not-so-subtle influences of the society in which they live.
In seeking to make sense of our sexuality we must look to its origins. Where does our sexuality come from? I would like to look at two approaches to that question. One is the scientific approach and then we’ll contrast it with the Torah approach, specifically, the Kabbalistic-Chassidic perspective. There are numerous secular-scientific theories of sexuality. From the perspective of the biological or evolutionary theory for example, our sexuality derives from the
fact that the perpetuation of the species is achieved through a sexual relationship between a male and a female. The male will therefore search for the female that is most fertile, and that will bear the healthiest offspring; and the female will search for a male that provides the healthiest seed, that is the most virile and that will protect the young….